Lilly Jay is speaking out about her estranged husbandEthan Slater’s new relationship withAriana Grande.

“[Ariana’s] the story really. Not a girl’s girl,” Jay told the outlet. “My family is just collateral damage.”

Jay also said she was focused on being “a good mom” to her and Slater’s child, adding in referenceto Grande’s own breakupfrom husbandDalton Gomez, “The story is her and Dalton.”

Jay and reps for Slater and Grande did not immediately return PEOPLE’s requests for comment.

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Ethan Slater and Lilly Jay in New York City on Nov. 5, 2018; Ariana Grande onThe Voice.Theo Wargo/Getty ; Trae Patton/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty

Ariana Grande’s New Boyfriend Ethan Slater Is Separated from Wife After Welcoming Baby Last Year

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After a source told PEOPLE last week thatSlater and Jay had separated, the actorfiled for divorcein New York City on Wednesday, perTMZ. The reason for his split from Jay was not listed.

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Ethan Slater’s Ex Breaks Silence About His Romance with Ariana Grande: ‘My Family’ Is ‘Collateral Damage’

Ethan Slater and Lilly Jay on June 4, 2018, in New York City.Mark Sagliocco/WireImage

Ethan Slater (L) attends the 2018 Tony Honors For Excellence In The Theatre and 2018 Special Award Recipients Cocktail Party at the Sofitel Hotel on June 4, 2018 in New York City.

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Grande, meanwhile,separated from husband Gomez, 27, earlier this year following nearly two years of marriage. A source previously told PEOPLE that the pair “have been quietly and lovingly working on their friendship” since their split.

As for Grande’s relationship with Slater, an insider told PEOPLE on Thursday that it was clear from the start that the"7 Rings"singer and theBroadwayalum were forming a close connection on the set ofthe upcomingWickedfilms, in which Grande plays Galinda/Glinda and Slater plays Boq.

“It was obvious on the set from early on …they were very sweet to each otherand often seen laughing together," the source said. (A second source told PEOPLE the two did not get together romantically until both were each separated from their spouses.)

But it seems the cast and crew thought it was a friendship vibe, not the budding romance it turned out to be.

“Everyone just thought they were both happily married, though, and didn’t expect them to end up dating,” the first source said, adding thatthe two costars are “full-on dating,“and Grande “really likes” Slater.

source: people.com