Jamie Otisis getting candid about the state of her marriage withDoug Hehnerwhile they celebrate their daughter’s birthday.
Last week, theMarried at First Sightstar, 35, posted a photo on Instagram of herself and her husband, 37, crying and cuddling in a parked car after aphone call with their therapist. Otis said she was “fighting for my marriage” as they were “not giving up on each other— not now, not ever.”
Otis, on Sunday,shared photossmiling with Hehner as they celebrated daughter Henley Grace’s 4th birthday a week early. Their 15-month-old sonHendrix Douglasalso appeared in photos from the party. In a lengthy caption, she updated fans on her marriage.
“Who do you turn to if you can’t go to your partner bc he is the one you are arguing w? Thank God for quality therapists!” continued Otis. “Ours helped us see that we’ve been relying on each other to ‘check all of our boxes’ ..to meet all of our needs.”
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Otis said she has “trust issues” and that even though she knew Hehner would “never intentionally hurt me,” that “doesn’t make my fear of being ‘too tough to love’ go away & weirdly it’s caused me to think that bc I know I can trust Doug, I should be able to rely on him for EVERYTHING.”
“Expecting one person to be your EVERYTHING is obvs silly 🤦🏼♀️ By the end of our Therapy sesh I apologized to Doug for putting so much pressure on him & he apologized to me for the same exact thing 🤪,” she wrote. “We’re about as co-dependent as they get 🤦🏼♀️🤣”
TheBacheloralum tied the knot with Hehner onMarried at First Sightin March 2014, and they’ve since documented their union on the show and its spinoffMarried at First Sight: The First Year, as well as their YouTube seriesMarried Life.
She added Sunday that they are not “even close to being done w therapy, but I really think we’ve turned a corner & I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.”
“Yesterday I watched Doug outside setting up Gracie’s party while also playing w the kids (bc they wouldn’t give him 5 seconds to finish!!) 😅 … he is genuinely the most fun, patient, caring, & kind person. I’m so lucky to have you, @doughehner 🥰 Thank you for choosing to stick w me!” she wrote, explaining that they celebrated Henley’s birthday a week early since Otis will be away in Los Angeles to filmMarried at First Sight: Unfiltered.
“We straight up pretended it was truly her bday the whole day so she’s going to think she’s 4 for a week before she actually is! 🤷🏼♀️😂🎉 #marriedlife #marriageadvice #notgivingup,” she concluded the post.
In her message last week, Otis said she’s a “fighter” and that she’ll continue to fight for her family, friends and fans.
“Right now, I’m fighting for my marriage. For my children. For ME,” she said at the time. “When I get to the other side of this battle I will be back here fighting for YOU and for all of US WOMEN again. But any good fighter knows you gotta focus on one battle at a time. Thank you for always standing in my corner & cheering me on … I love you! Truly!”
source: people.com
