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Oprah Winfreyfirst encountered the work of Arthur C. Brooks, a Harvard professor whose work studies the science of happiness, during the early days of the pandemic, when she began reading his column, titled ‘How to Build a Life,’ inThe Atlanticmagazine. Intrigued, she read his book,From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life.Winfrey realized, she said, that if she were still hosting her television show, “Arthur would be one of those people we’d be calling on as an expert for almost every subject, everybody’s life dilemmas and challenges and obstacles, and how to move forward and be a better person.”So Winfrey reached out and asked Brooks toappear on her podcast, and before long the pair began talking about collaborating on a book.
The result is their book,Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier,which will be published on Sept. 12.
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What are you grateful for right now?I’m grateful that I could be of help in Lahaina, because I’d gone delivering some things, solar generators. Grateful for the two-hour, 22-minute hike to the fence line. Grateful to be reading with Sade, who’s one of my daughter girls from South Africa, on the north porch. She was in a chair reading, I was in a chair reading. So the two of us reading on the sun porch. Hot bath, all suds. Because I filled the bath with lots of bubble bath yesterday. That was actually seven things yesterday. But it’s the little things. It’s the paying attention to the suds in the bath and, oh my God, the crisp clean sheets.
Oprah Winfrey.Courtesy of Oprah Daily - Photographer: Ruven Afanador
Courtesy of Oprah Daily - Photographer: Ruven Afanador
What do you think is the best way we can share happiness with others?I think because I spent so much time actually paying attention to other people’s challenges, dysfunction and suffering, I learned during those years. I really came away with a sense of deep appreciation for what it means to live in the space of presence. And I really learned, from all those years of interviewing people one-on-one, that one of the greatest gifts you can give to anybody is your full attention. One of the threads for me for all those years of listening was that all humans are looking to be validated. No matter what the show was, whether it wasSenator Obama, orBeyoncé, or somebody who had overcome cancer. At the end of every one of those interviews, in one form or another someone always said, “Was that okay? How was that? Was that good?” Beyoncé, at the end of teaching me how to twerk, went, “Is that okay?’ ‘Yeah, it’s okay. You’re Beyoncé, it’s okay.” I translate it to mean, did you hear me, and did what I say matter?Being able to understand that, that is what everybody is looking for.You write in the book about having a calm, even-keeled personality. But you seemed so excited on your show, like when you gave away cars in that famous episode.On the night that I gave the cars away, I wasn’t excited for myself; I get most excited making other people excited. I don’t like surprises myself. Don’t ever surprise me. And after theMary Tyler Mooreepisode, where I was surprised andwent into the ugly cry, I forbid anybody to ever surprise me again on that show. I don’t like being surprised, but I love surprising other people. And I’m happiest when I can make other people happy. I did not sleep the night we gave away those cars, because I was so excited for other people’s excitement.
source: people.com
